What Could You Say?

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A conflict between friends resolved with words.

NAEYC

NAEYC: 

Areas of Development: Social-Emotional

2.B.01- In Ms. Huinker's classroom, children have varied opportunities to engage throughout the day with teaching staff who are attentive and responsive to them, and facilitate their social competence and their ability to learn through interacting with others.

Ms. Huinker wants to help Nathan and Jillian clarify a conflict they are having. She encourages Nathan to use his words to tell Jillian what his needs are. She then asks Jillian if she thinks she can comply with Nathan's request, which she does.

Creating Caring Communities for Learning

3.B.05- Ms. Huinker helps individual children learn socially appropriate behavior by providing guidance that is consistent with the child's level of development.

Ms. Huinker encourages Nathan to use words to help resolve a conflict he is having with Jillian. When Nathan asks Jillian to "please stop," Ms. Huinker explains to Nathan that Jillian may not know what she's doing that is upsetting him, so she prompts Nathan to tell Jillian what he would like her to stop doing.

Creating Caring Communities for Learning

3.B.06- Ms. Huinker manages behavior and implements classroom rules and expectations in a manner that is consistent and predictable.

Ms. Huinker expects children in her classroom to work towards resolving conflicts by talking through the problem. When Nathan is upset with Jillian, Ms. Huinker encourages him to tell Jillian what he needs from her. When Nathan tells Jillian in a clear way what he would like from her, Ms. Huinker checks to see if the resolution is acceptable to Jillian as well as Nathan.

IELS

IELS: 

9.1-Language Understanding and Use

Children express a positive awareness of self in terms of specific abilities, characteristics, and preferences.

Nathan expresses needs, wants, and feelings in socially appropriate ways.

Nathan has a disagreement with his friend Jillian. Ms. Huinker tries to clarify the situation by asking Nathan what is happening. He describes the conflict to Ms. Huinker who then asks Nathan if he has used his words to tell Jillian how he feels. Nathan asks Jillian to "stop".

9.2-Self-Regulation

Children show increasing ability to regulate their behavior and express their emotions in appropriate ways.

Nathan ... states feelings, needs, and opinions in difficult situations without harming self, others, or property.

Nathan is upset about something his friend Jillian has done. Ms. Huinker reminds Nathan to use words to tell Jillian what he needs and Nathan does so without further difficulty.

9.4-Peer Interactions

Children develop the ability to interact with peers respectfully and to form positive peer relationships.

Nathan negotiates with others to resolve disagreements.

Nathan has a disagreement with Jillian. Ms. Huinker prompts Nathan to tell Jillian what he needs from her. Nathan tells Jillian to "stop" and Jillian agrees.

IQPPS

IQPPS: 

Areas of Development: Social-Emotional

2.12- In Ms. Huinker's classroom, children have varied opportunities to engage throughout the day with teaching staff who are attentive and responsive to them, and facilitate their social competence and their ability to learn through interacting with others.

Ms. Huinker wants to help Nathan and Jillian clarify a conflict they are having. She encourages Nathan to use his words to tell Jillian what his needs are. She then asks Jillian if she thinks she can comply with Nathan's request, which she does.

Creating Caring Communities for Learning

3.5- Ms. Huinker helps individual children learn socially appropriate behavior by providing guidance that is consistent with the childʼs level of development.

Ms. Huinker encourages Nathan to use words to help resolve a conflict he is having with Jillian. When Nathan asks Jillian to "please stop," Ms. Huinker explains to Nathan that Jillian may not know what she's doing that is upsetting him, so she prompts Nathan to tell Jillian what he would like her to stop doing.

Creating Caring Communities for Learning

3.6- Ms. Huinker manages behavior and implements classroom rules and expectations in a manner that is consistent and predictable.

Ms. Huinker expects children in her classroom to work towards resolving conflicts by talking through the problem. When Nathan is upset with Jillian, Ms. Huinker encourages him to tell Jillian what he needs from her. When Nathan tells Jillian in a clear way what he would like from her, Ms. Huinker checks to see if the resolution is acceptable to Jillian as well as Nathan.

HSPS

HSPS: 

1304.21(a)(3)(i)(D) - Ms. Huinker encourages respect for the feelings and rights of others by helping Nathan solve his conflict with Jillian.

Ms. Huinker expects children in her classroom to work towards resolving conflicts by talking through the problem. When Nathan is upset with Jillian, Ms. Huinker encourages him to tell Jillian what he needs from her. When Nathan tells Jillian in a clear way what he would like from her, Ms. Huinker checks to see if the resolution is acceptable to Jillian as well as Nathan.

1304.21(a)(4)(iii) - Ms. Huinker promotes interaction and language use among children and between children and adults through the facilitation and use of problem solving skills.

Ms. Huinker encourages Nathan to use words to help resolve a conflict he is having with Jillian. When Nathan asks Jillian to "please stop," Ms. Huinker explains to Nathan that Jillian may not know what she's doing that is upsetting him, so she prompts Nathan to tell Jillian what he would like her to stop doing.

HSCOF

HSCOF: 

Social and Emotional Development

Self Control

  • Shows progress in expressing feelings, needs and opinions in difficult situations and conflicts without harming themselves, others, or property.
  • Develops growing understanding of how their actions affect others and begins to accept the consequences of their actions.

Cooperation

  • Shows increasing abilities to use compromise and discussion in working, playing and resolving conflicts with peers.

Social Relationships

  • Progresses in responding sympathetically to peers who are in need, upset, hurt, or angry; and in expressing empathy or caring for others.