If I Say Please

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Conflict resolution is a simple matter in Ms. Schuhmacher's class.

NAEYC

NAEYC: 

Area of Development: Language Development

2.D.06— Children in Ms. Schuhmacher’s class have varied opportunities…that encourage them to have discussions to solve problems that are interpersonal…

When Isaiah and Cody have a disagreement about playing with a toy, Ms. Schuhmacher suggests they sit down and discuss the problem. She encourages them to talk to each other and redirects their attention to each other when needed. Through the discussion, the boys resolve their problem.

Creating Caring Communities for Learning

3.B.05— Ms. Schuhmacher helps Isaiah and Cody learn socially appropriate behavior by providing guidance that is consistent with the child’s level of development.

While Ms. Schuhmacher facilitates a discussion between two boys having a disagreement, she takes the opportunity to teach socially appropriate conflict resolution skills. She asks each boy to state the problem, and she repeats what the boys say so they are clear about what the other is saying. She encourages the boys to talk to each other instead of talking to her. Isaiah and Cody agree upon a solution and continue playing together.

Creating Caring Communities for Learning

3.B.06— Ms. Schuhmacher manages behavior and implements classroom rules and expectations in a manner that is consistent and predictable.

Isaiah and Cody seem familiar with the process of discussing conflicts with others in the class. They do not resist the idea of sitting down together and talking about the problem. Ms. Schuhmacher has set the expectations for behavior and for conflict resolution and the boys are comfortable with the process.

IELS

IELS: 

8.3—Problem Solving

Children demonstrate strategies for reasoning and problem solving.

Isaiah and Cody recognize and solve problems…through interactions and discussions with peers and caregivers.

When Isaiah and Cody realize they cannot agree who will play with a particular toy, Ms. Schuhmacher guides them to discuss their feelings. Each boy states the way he views the conflict, and Ms. Schuhmacher facilitates the discussion they have that leads to a mutually agreeable solution.

9.2—Self-Regulation

Children show increasing ability to regulate their behavior and express their emotions in appropriate ways.

Isaiah and Cody state feelings, needs, and opinions in difficult situations without harming self, others, or property.

Isaiah and Cody both want to play with the same toy. Ms. Schuhmacher guides their discussion about how to resolve the disagreement. The boys express their thoughts and feelings in constructive ways and their language is free from bias and judgment.

 9.4—Peer Interactions

Children develop the ability to interact with peers respectfully and to form positive peer relationships.

Isaiah and Cody sustain interactions with peers…develop friendships with other peers…negotiate with others to resolve disagreements… and take turns with others.

Isaiah and Cody work together with Ms. Schuhmacher to resolve their disagreement over a toy. The boys express their needs in the situation, and tell each other what they would like in order to resolve the disagreement. Once they both agree on a solution, the boys continue to play with each other and the toy that was in dispute. They take turns and figure out a way they can both play with the toy.

IQPPS

IQPPS: 

Area of Development: Language Development

2.17— Children in Ms. Schuhmacher’s class have varied opportunities…that encourage them to have discussions to solve problems that are interpersonal…

When Isaiah and Cody have a disagreement about playing with a toy, Ms. Schuhmacher suggests they sit down and discuss the problem. She encourages them to talk to each other and redirects their attention to each other when needed. Through the discussion, the boys resolve their problem.

Creating Caring Communities for Learning

3.5— Ms. Schuhmacher helps Isaiah and Cody learn socially appropriate behavior by providing guidance that is consistent with the child’s level of development.

While Ms. Schuhmacher facilitates a discussion between two boys having a disagreement, she takes the opportunity to teach socially appropriate conflict resolution skills. She asks each boy to state the problem, and she repeats what the boys say so they are clear about what the other is saying. She encourages the boys to talk to each other instead of talking to her. Isaiah and Cody agree upon a solution and continue playing together.

Creating Caring Communities for Learning

3.6— Ms. Schuhmacher manages behavior and implements classroom rules and expectations in a manner that is consistent and predictable.

Isaiah and Cody seem familiar with the process of discussing conflicts with others in the class. They do not resist the idea of sitting down together and talking about the problem. Ms. Schuhmacher has set the expectations for behavior and for conflict resolution and the boys are comfortable with the process.

HSPS

HSPS: 

1304.21(a)(1)(iii) - Isaiah and Cody have been provided an environment of acceptance that supports and respects gender, culture, language, ethnicity and family composition as the boys work cooperatively with Ms. Schuhmacher to solve their conflict over a toy. 

When Isaiah and Cody realize they cannot agree who will play with a particular toy, Ms. Schuhmacher guides them to discuss their feelings. Each boy states the way he views the conflict, and Ms. Schuhmacher facilitates the discussion they have that leads to a mutually agreeable solution. The boys decide to use a strategy that one had learned at his home.

1304.21(c)(1)(iv) - Ms. Schuhmacher is ensures that the program environment helps children develop emotional security and facility in social relationships by having the boys sit down and talk through their conflict.

Isaiah and Cody work together with Ms. Schuhmacher to resolve their disagreement over a toy. The boys express their needs in the situation, and tell each other what they would like in order to resolve the disagreement. Once they both agree on a solution, the boys continue to play with each other and the toy that was in dispute. They take turns and figure out a way they can both play with the toy.